Life is much better when your mum is your best friend. We
look at the complexity and dynamics of the mother-daughter relationship.
You see Hollywood power mother-daughter couples like Tina
and Beyonce Knowlesw and Goldie Hawn and kate Hudson, and even the kardashian
girls and their mother Kris, you think, what is their secret? Tina and Beyonce
run her entertainment empire together, Goldie and Kate are practically like
sisters, and though the Kardashians are a rowdy bunch, everything seems to
center around their familial home and the matriarch of the family, Kris.
Shared Culture
As the world gets smaller, it stands to reason that we
become closer. With information coming at kids from many directions now, it
won’t be surprising that the younger generation are rediscovering the things
that their mothers loved in their youth. Music is now so much more open;
there’s no longer strict categorizing of which was from mum’s time and which is
from now. Old favorites are being revived, as even young singers re-sing
classics. Pop idols now have no qualms about doing covers of songs from the
50s, 60s and so forth. In fact, it has become the in-thing to do that.
As popular culture make what was old, hip again, so the
generation gap inches closer. There is a shift even in fashion, where vintage
styles are now making a revival. So how cool is iti that you can wear your
mum’s dress when she was a teenager and look so trendy?
Mothers Know Best
Your mother is the one person in the world who is completely
unselfish when it comes to sharing knowledge and wisdom. That’s because she
only wants the best for you. When you’re little, your mother mother probably
knew your every thought, before you even think of it.
When you get older, this translates to someone who
understands you completely, knows your strengths and weaknesses and guides you
to be the best that you can be. She’s the one who sees your talent for music,
and tirelessly drives you to your piano classes every week. She’s the one who
catches on your love for design, and signs you up for interior design courses
in the university. She sees uncertainty of youth in you, yet she has complete
faith that you will soon come into your own. Now, with that kind of support,
how far wrong can you go?
Unconditional friendship
A “bestfriend” relationship wit your mother is completely
different from your peers. It is more permanent.
You grew up on family values and shared traditions and
rituals, so the bond is strong. You understand when your mother hesitates to
get her palms read by a tarot card reader, because she taught you to be in
charge of your own fate, and not let others dictate how you should live. She
understands when you are undecided about moving to another city for a job,
because you have always dreamt of building a family where you yourself grew up.
There is an intrinsic understanding of each other that normal friendships will
never have. It is this understanding that helps you support each other through
the most difficult decisions in life. And you take comfort in the fact that
there is never any judgment, only LOVE.
Agree to Disagree
There will be times in your life when you are at loggerheads
with your mother. It is to be expected as you struggle to find a sense of self
apart from her. As you grow, you realize maybe you don’t share some values and
that you would like to explore the world on your own. Every mother-daughter
relationship goes through this distancing. Some sooner than others, some for
longer than others. As you struggle for independence, you can take comfort in the fact that your mother understands,
because she probably went through the same thing. A normal friendship may not
survive this estrangement, but you know your friendship with your mother will.
Once you have found yourself, you know she will still be there, ready to resume
the friendship from where you left off. So, if you’re going through a rough
patch with mum, don’t lose heart. She will still be your best friend, when
you’re ready.
