Our impromtu vacation

Last weekend, we went on an impromtu vacation. Our lil sis and her husband called to ask if we'd like to join them on their trip to waterfall.
At first, I was too tired to join the trip but Mr Husband said it would be a great idea even we are super tired. So on the next morning, we woke up early in the morning to pack up for the trip.
On our way to Kajang, our lil sis called that she was on the way to the meeting point too.
We met at nearby the Sungai Ramal area, along side of the Kajang tol.
So our journey begun. We went to Sungai congkak for the trip to waterfalls. The journey was quite fun, I was amazed how beautiful hulu langat was like, the "Kampung" houses, there were all bigger than our terrace house, with different designs and sizes.
So we arrived at the Sungai Congkak site. The first impression was like, "what? a little stream with rocks?". and our bro-in-law stepped out from his vehicle and walked towards ours and said " this place did not reach our standards, let's go to Sungai Gabai". We, the "veterans", just nodded and followed his car towards the new place.
So we went to Sungai Gabai. Along the trip, we bumped into the Imam Muda and the Astro crew at some Islamic Cemetery area nearby the the Sungai Gabai. I thought maybe they did filmed the Imam Muda there.
Did you know that Sungai Gabai is at the Sungai Lui? I am sure that everyone of you. (Most of  you) knew the Aizat's song about Sungai Lui? I was humming the song while sitting inside the car while my husband busy driving while entertaining our daughter with lots of her questions. I tell you, her questions never ends!!
The trip to Sungai Gabai took about 1 hour from Kajang. The fees to enter the waterfall area is RM1 for each person. (even a baby!) Thanks to our sis, she paid for us!! ;)
This is us, having a BLAST!!

My Mum is my BESTFRIEND

Life is much better when your mum is your best friend. We look at the complexity and dynamics of the mother-daughter relationship.

You see Hollywood power mother-daughter couples like Tina and Beyonce Knowlesw and Goldie Hawn and kate Hudson, and even the kardashian girls and their mother Kris, you think, what is their secret? Tina and Beyonce run her entertainment empire together, Goldie and Kate are practically like sisters, and though the Kardashians are a rowdy bunch, everything seems to center around their familial home and the matriarch of the family, Kris.

Shared Culture

As the world gets smaller, it stands to reason that we become closer. With information coming at kids from many directions now, it won’t be surprising that the younger generation are rediscovering the things that their mothers loved in their youth. Music is now so much more open; there’s no longer strict categorizing of which was from mum’s time and which is from now. Old favorites are being revived, as even young singers re-sing classics. Pop idols now have no qualms about doing covers of songs from the 50s, 60s and so forth. In fact, it has become the in-thing to do that.

As popular culture make what was old, hip again, so the generation gap inches closer. There is a shift even in fashion, where vintage styles are now making a revival. So how cool is iti that you can wear your mum’s dress when she was a teenager and look so trendy?

Mothers Know Best

Your mother is the one person in the world who is completely unselfish when it comes to sharing knowledge and wisdom. That’s because she only wants the best for you. When you’re little, your mother mother probably knew your every thought, before you even think of it.

When you get older, this translates to someone who understands you completely, knows your strengths and weaknesses and guides you to be the best that you can be. She’s the one who sees your talent for music, and tirelessly drives you to your piano classes every week. She’s the one who catches on your love for design, and signs you up for interior design courses in the university. She sees uncertainty of youth in you, yet she has complete faith that you will soon come into your own. Now, with that kind of support, how far wrong can you go?

Unconditional friendship

A “bestfriend” relationship wit your mother is completely different from your peers. It is more permanent.

You grew up on family values and shared traditions and rituals, so the bond is strong. You understand when your mother hesitates to get her palms read by a tarot card reader, because she taught you to be in charge of your own fate, and not let others dictate how you should live. She understands when you are undecided about moving to another city for a job, because you have always dreamt of building a family where you yourself grew up. There is an intrinsic understanding of each other that normal friendships will never have. It is this understanding that helps you support each other through the most difficult decisions in life. And you take comfort in the fact that there is never any judgment, only LOVE.

Agree to Disagree

There will be times in your life when you are at loggerheads with your mother. It is to be expected as you struggle to find a sense of self apart from her. As you grow, you realize maybe you don’t share some values and that you would like to explore the world on your own. Every mother-daughter relationship goes through this distancing. Some sooner than others, some for longer than others. As you struggle for independence, you can take comfort  in the fact that your mother understands, because she probably went through the same thing. A normal friendship may not survive this estrangement, but you know your friendship with your mother will. Once you have found yourself, you know she will still be there, ready to resume the friendship from where you left off. So, if you’re going through a rough patch with mum, don’t lose heart. She will still be your best friend, when you’re ready.

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Isteri kesayangan suami?

Menjadi seorang isteri lebih mudah untuk mendapatkan keredhaan dan ganjaran di sisi Allah sekiranya seorang perempuan yang berstatus isteri benar-benar menjalankan tanggungjawab dan peranannya dalam keluarga. Menjadi isteri menuntut waktu kerja 24jam sehari
dan 7 hari seminggu. Mana mungkin tugas berat ini diletakkan pada bahu seorang suami. Oleh sebab itu sebagai isteri perlu tahu bagaimana cara untuk menjadi seorang wanita yang menjadi dambaan suami, kerana bidang tugas seorang isteri sebenarnya lebih besar berbanding lelaki walau isteri tidak mendapat kuasa veto dalam keluarga.

Sebagai seorang suami, ciri-ciri di bawah ini akan menjadikan anda wahai isteri-isteri, seorang yang bakal disayangi sepenuhnya oleh suami. Tetapi dengan syarat anda mesti cuba untuk menjadikannya kenyataan.

1. Isteri yang cerdik

Dengan erti kata bukan cerdik dari sudut akademik. Gulungan ijazah bukanlah kejayaan yang perlu anda tonjolkan untuk menjadi isteri dambaan suami. Isteri yang cerdik akan benar-benar mengenali siapakah suaminya, tahu bagaimana mengambil hati suami di waktu sedih, pandai
mengangkat suami di pandangan orang lain, tidak hanya merajuk untuk mendapat perhatian dari suami. Wahai isteri-isteri anda sebenarnya mampu lakukan ini!

2.’Assistant’ dalam pengurusan kewangan keluarga

Jangan menjadi seorang isteri yang hobinya suka shopping. Anda sebenarnya mula memeningkan suami. Lebih-lebih lagi bajet kewangan suami anda adalah di luar kemampuannya. Sebagai seorang isteri andalah yang menjadi pembantu dalam perancangan ekonomi keluarga. Anda mungkin membantu jika anda juga bekerja. Tetapi bagaimana jika anda suri rumah sepenuh masa? Jika anda tidak berkemampuan untuk membantu meningkatkan ekonomi keluarga, biarlah sekurang-kurangnya anda menjadi pengurus yang bijak terhadap bajet bulanan yang diberikan oleh suami anda.

3. Manager dalam segala hal

Suami diberikan kuasa untuk memimpin kerana suami lebih rasional dalam membuat keputusan. Tetapi tidak dapat menguruskan semua perkara tanpa adanya isteri. Maka andalah wahai isteri-isteri yang perlu menjadi ‘manager’. Makan pakai suami, anak-anak, kebersihan rumah, perbelanjaan rumah dan perkara-perkara kecil yang diperlukan dalam kehidupan berkeluarga tidak akan dapat diuruskan tanpa bantuan isteri. Anda perlu mula memahami hakikat ini kerana sekiranya anda mampu menguruskan semuanya dengan cekap dan baik maka sudah pasti apabila suami anda pulang dari bekerja, beliau akan memberikan senyuman yang sempurna kerana menghargai anda.

4. Selalu di belakang suami

Ramai isteri mengharapkan suami berada selalu di samping mereka. Tetapi mereka terlupa bahawa ramai suami lari dari isteri kerana isteri mereka tidak pernah berada di belakang mereka. Seorang isteri perlu menjadi penenang kepada suami, berikan suami kata-kata semangat dan pelukan di saat emosi mereka jatuh. Sekiranya anda mampu berbuat demikian, percayalah bahawa tidak akan ada wanita lain di mata suami anda. Berikan sokongan dan galakan walaupun mungkin ada perbezaan pada minat dan hobi anda berdua.

5. Menjaga perut suami dan anak-anak

Yang ini seharusnya seorang isteri tidak dapat tidak mesti tahu memasak. Bahkan kalau mahukan kasih sayang lebih dari suami kena tahu apa masakan kegemaran suami. Walaupun mungkin masakan anda tidak sehebat masakan chef, tetapi hakikatnya suami tetap mahukan air tangan isterinya dalam menyediakan makanan. Tangan seorang isteri sudah tentu bukan sahaja menyediakan yang terbaik dalam menu untuk keluarganya, tetapi juga sudah pasti isteri yang hebat akan berdoa untuk setiap usaha menyediakan makan minum suaminya.

6. Pandai jaga diri

Isteri perlu pandai jaga diri dan famili. Maklumlah mungkin ada ketikanya suami ‘out station’ kerana berkursus atau atas urusan kerja yang lain. Maka sudah tentu isteri yang pandai jaga diri dan famili akan memberikan kelegaan di hati suami.

7. Perunding imej

Kalau suami anda nampak hensem di pejabat, sebenarnya isterilah yang mendapat pujian. Terutama di pandangan mata orang-orang tua. Sebab itu isteri perlu tahu menjaga imej suami. Bila digelar sebagai perunding imej suami, maka isteri juga perlu lebih-lebih lagi pandai mengurus
imej diri. Jangan hanya nampak cantik ketika berada di luar rumah, sedangkan ketika di rumah baju T-shirt dan kain batik menjadi pakaian utama. Cuba ubah situasi ini jika anda ingin menjadi isteri dambaan suami anda.

8. Menjaga keluarga mertua

Tidak dapat tidak untuk menjadi isteri dambaan suami, jangan hanya menyayangi suami anda akan akan bahagia. Anda perlu menjaga hati semua ahli keluarga sebelah suami anda. Percayalah anda benar-benar menjadi dambaan suami apabila anda mengambil berat tentang sakit demam mertua anda. Anda menjaga mertua anda seperti ibu kandung sendiri. Kerana itu semua akan membuatkan suami anda rasa dihargai dan menerima dirinya dan keluarganya.

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Secrets to be a HAPPILY EVER AFTER :: FOOYOH ENTERTAINMENT

Secrets to be a HAPPILY EVER AFTER :: FOOYOH ENTERTAINMENT

Secrets of HAPPILY EVER AFTER

We are more than well acquainted with the fairy tale ending of “happily ever after”. But when we crash back to harsh reality with things that burst the romance bubbles such as divorces and extra marital affairs, it makes one wonder if happily ever after is simply an urban legend much like the mythical creatures of the past. Is there any hope left for the hopeless romantics?

 Anthropologist Helen Fisher, of Rutgers University in New Jersey, United States seems to think that there is, “We now have physiological evidence that romantic love can last. It now appears from this study that romantic love exist not only to initiate pair-bonding but to maintain and enhance long term relationships.”

The 2008 study led by Professor Fisher found that couples married for more than 20 years showed similar brain activity to lovers in the those of a new relationship, when shown pictures of their partners. The study used MRI scans to compare the brain activity of 17 married people aged between 40 and 65 who had been married for at least 2 decades, with those of a group of younger people who had been in relationships for less than 6 months.

Now that we have established that some couples do live happily ever after, we look into the SECRETS that go into making that possible. To have a complete fairytale ending is stuff for the storybooks because in real life, even best relationships meet some bumps along the way. It’s not realistic to expect a relationship that is without disagreements. Below are some great advices and tips from relationships experts in making HAPPILY EVER AFTER a reality.

Respect and Support Each Other

Couples and relationships experts agree that couples who stay in long-term relationships have a healthy respect for each other. Respecting your partner means being open and honest with them and being considerate of their needs, wants and feelings. It also means accepting their individuality. Remember, being a couple doesn’t mean you have to agree on everything, so have a positive attitude towards the phrase, “We agree to disagree”. Respecting each other means not wanting to change your partner into someone you want them to be. Supporting each other’s growth is also an important ingredient in a matured relationship. As you grow into the different phrases of your life together, it’s essential to be there to support each other’s new dreams and aspirations.

Have fun and make time for love

This might seem like a trivial tip to a happy relationship, but this is the easiest and most effective method to stay in love. If you ask a couple whose relationship had fallen apart to give their reason; 1 of the reasons cited most often is, “We just stopped having fun together.” That’s right, do not underestimate little treats like sweet notes pasted on a windscreen or fun activities like a simple picnic or walking hand-in-hand on the beach! Go on a trip or have a silly day out because positive feelings breed more positive ones. Making time to have fun is actually making a deposit into your love account. This will help you weather the storms or downtime in your relationship.

 Is it you?

Dr. Gail Saltz, a psychiatrist with the New York Presbyterian Hospital says that sometimes the issue might not lie on the relationship at all, “Marital dissatisfaction often has its roots in personal unhappiness, which can be related to work, level of success, health or weight. Often, these personal shortcomings are blamed on the marriage. In fact, many couples that at one time chose to remain in unhappy marriages end up 5 years later - even though nothing in the marriage itself has changed.” So, if you can’t pin point the exact factor in your relationship that is making you miserable, then it’s time for you to take a step back to reflect if you are simply deflecting your dissatisfaction with other parts of your life into your relationship.

 Leaving is not an option

Couples that make it are those that commit to it. There should be a strong bond and trust here that the both of you are in it for the long haul – for better or for worse.

When leaving is not an option, couples will learn to work round their issues and learn to trust each other more. Take leaving out of that equation and you could feel your love for each other grow. Having said that, t his is not to be taken to the other extreme – you are not supposed to take your partner for granted knowing the fact that they will never leave you! Instead, take it as a promise that you will love each each other and make things work.

The difference between long-term loves with new love is that long term love, the obsession, the mania and anxiety has been replaced with calm. Study also shown that people in long term relationships showed higher levels of activity in a part of the brain associated with calmness, suggesting that their passions had become more serene over the years.

That sounds like a happily ever after! Let’s try it.